More and more gay couples are discovering the thrill of parenthood. It is so rewarding to guide them through what can be a complicated maze of laws and information to build families through egg donation and surrogacy. In my experience, couples from this demographic tend to be more-than-ready to launch the process by the time they contact me. After all, challenges they face in a society that is still adapting to same-sex unions and in many cases, is still fraught with prejudice, has prepared them to tackle any difficulty that may arise with their search for egg donors and surrogates.
Among challenges, gay couples discover when they travel the road to parenthood are many of the same experienced by heterosexuals and singles that want children by means other than natural conception. Additional issues involve laws that vary from state to state; insurance; and emotional and psychological issues of the ups and downs of not just hoping to be parents, but of the often previously complicated relationships with finding means to have children.
Gay couples’ donor and surrogacy processes differ than heterosexuals
Gay men must rely on egg donors. The process of finding one is similar to their heterosexual counterparts in that they typically want donors to meet physical and psychological health criteria, as well as have similar physical characteristics such as hair color, body build and more.
Insurance before, during and after a baby is born
Gay couples must insure themselves when they seek egg donors and surrogates, during the process and pregnancy, and after a child is born. While it’s becoming legal in more states, some same-sex couples do not enjoy the same insurance benefits as heterosexual couples and must accommodate for themselves and their child or children.
Like all people who try to conceive children, gay couples experience the rollercoaster ride that is the wonder and hope that they become parents. They anticipate that their sperm successfully fertilizes an egg, and their chosen surrogate is able to carry a healthy child to term. Then, of course, there is the lifelong realization that they will be responsible for a tiny person and nurturing him or her!
Every pathway to parenthood is unique. Our goal is to tailor our process to your needs and offer guidance and support to enable you to build the foundation emotionally, financially and physically that will allow your dreams of family to be realized.